Forgiveness is a choice. It is an act of the will. People sometimes think they have not forgiven because they do not “feel like it”. The feelings come after the choice – sometimes a long time after.
If you haven’t read last week’s blog about the power of forgiveness, go back and read it now. Once we know the power of forgiveness, we want to know how to do it well.
- Chose to forgive. This means you will not hold what the student/teacher/admin/parent has done against them. They do not owe you anything.
- Forgive them every time you think of what happened and start to get mad. Forgiveness is not a one time act. It is an every day act.
- Admit how much it hurt you. The more you admit the hurt, the deeper your forgiveness and the deeper your healing and freedom from the event and person.
- Set healthy boundaries. Just because you forgave them does not mean they can do it again.
- Wish the person well. This is a statement about the kind of person you want to be. This is the ultimate act of freedom.